The Laws of Human Nature - Robert Greene

The Laws of Human Nature
- Robert Greene
About the Book
Which Questions Does this Book Answer?
Humans Are Irrational.
Humans Are Prone to Feelings of Grandeur
Humans Have a Tendency Toward Gender Repression
Humans Are Aggressive
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The Laws of Human Nature
What affects your day-to-day life
October 2018
Viking
Robert Greene
Robert Greene, the #1 New York Times bestselling author of The 48 Laws of Power, The 33 Strategies of War, The Art of Seduction, and Mastery, is an internationally renowned expert on power strategies. He lives in Los Angeles.
How to get control over your impulses by understanding human nature
How to use these impulses to your advantage
Many decisions we make are simply based on the emotions we feel at the time.
What you can do
Increase your reaction time. Don't make decisions in the heat of the moment
Consider all the possible biases influencing your decision
Be calm and patient
Balance thinking with emotions
e.g. confirmation bias
We tend to look for information that supports our existing beliefs
e.g. conviction bias
We think that the stronger our emotions are, the more something must be true
e.g. appearance bias
We think that someone who is good-looking must also be of good character
Biases can lead to bad decisions, so make sure to be:
Skeptical
Analytical
Curious about other viewpoints
Humans Are Narcissistic.
We are all on a spectrum, from healthy levels of narcissism to deep narcissism.
Narcissism is often wrongly associated with a sense of self-love, but in reality, deep narcissists have low self-esteem and are insecure.
They cope with this by being jealous, controlling and
attention-seeking. They can't take criticism. They lack empathy.
What you can do
To reach a healthier level of narcissism,
create a sense of self that you CAN love.
This will make you less insecure.
Our aggressive nature helped make us
the dominant species on the planet.
What you can do
Don't try to repress anger, as this can lead to...
Instead, first recognize where the anger comes from
Accept healthy levels of aggression and put them to good use
Passive aggression
Aggression projected inward
Insecurities
Domineering parents
Childhood trauma
Control issues
To fuel ambitions and realize goals
To be fearless in pursuing a higher purpose
We attain our masculinity and femininity both from our genes and our upbringing, but because of society's influence men tend to repress their feminine side and women tend to repress their masculine side.
We'd be better off embracing the duality within us! This would improve...
Our relationships
Problem-solving skills
Creativity
Confidence
The Law of Grandiosity
Even small successes can go to people's
heads and make them lose touch with reality
What you can do
Even at the best of times, be aware of contributing
factors as well as your own strengths, weaknesses and limit.
Be realistic.
Humans Are Short-Sighted and Defensive
Short-sightedness is natural and goes back to a time when survival was based on immediate concerns, such as where to get the next meal
What you can do to combat short-sightedness
People are defensive because they privilege autonomy and free will
What you can do to deal with people's defensiveness
When making decisions, remember to take a step back and consider the bigger picture
Recognize that today's problems are likely the consequences of past actions
Doing nothing is also an option!
In the West it is often seen as a sign of weakness, but the Japanese culture recognizes the wisdom in waiting and see what happens
Make people agree with your plan as though it was their idea
Show your appreciation of the other person
Validate their individuality and intelligence
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