Interpersonal Relationship 2.0

Interpersonal Relationship 2.0
Why
How to do it
The importance of interpersonal relationships
Easy asking for help
WoM
What is The Effective Relationships
1. Know each other
2. Willing to help
3. Ability to help
Core: Value Exchange
The long-term maintenance of a relationship must be an exchange of value
Beautiful women want to marry rich people
Yu Minhong and the boy
Weak countries without diplomacy
What the strong say is right (Huang Feihong case)
Suggest
1. Don't be a reach party
Active credit card
2. Don't be a good person
Passive credit card
Interpersonal Relationship Breadth: Weak Relationship
The depth of interpersonal relationship: intimacy
Interpersonal Conflict
Ending: [Ability First] VS [People First]
Being able to deal with all kinds of people is a kind of scarce ability in itself, which acts as a bridge, such as Taobao, intermediaries, matchmakers, and translators. And people who blindly talk about [personal connections] but don’t know this point of view ultimately have neither connections nor ability. Our goal should be: I don't need to deliberately make contacts, I am the contacts.
Why increase breadth
Active and passive knowledge
Passive awareness
Advantages: you can get to know people without business, disadvantages: no choice
Active awareness
Benefits: You can choose whom to associate with. Disadvantages: requires operating costs, badminton money, time, energy
Advocate active awareness:
There is always a banquet in the world, and proactive recognition is a scarce ability. How can you expect to go to a new company and be your relatives? We are a society dominated by unfamiliar designs.
Weak ties: access to information
Luo Yonghao African friends
Sea turtle story
The story of a motorcycle at home
Bank teller, civil servant
Unmanned Tesla Factory
Niu Gensheng Mengniu
How to increase breadth
1. Improve your appearance
Examples of Guanggong, college entrance examination scripts, introduction of public accounts such as "Du Shaofei", "Pomegranate Po report" and other public accounts "Bird Cage Effect", cases of handsome guys and big guys
2. Go outside to participate in activities, at least 3 times a month
When those things that make you change a lot happen, we always think it’s just a normal day
3. Social media
Take my own example, the story of Brother Xionggan, guitar, drums, and Feng
4. Prepare yourself for two or three interesting self-introductions
Who should I make friends with?
Aggressive personality
Phenotypic personality
"Two more sets" script
1. Exchange of ideas
2. Emotional communication
3. Physical contact
Hammer case
4. Joint activities
Men go black, women go shopping, men go to work, women say: "You ghost"
Do not call joint activities in the same dormitory
The less inconsistent, the better the relationship
Why: Interpersonal relationship is the biggest factor affecting happiness
What is it: Something that does not meet the expectations of the other party
For example: everyone agrees with you, one person opposes
You're playing games and watching TV, your mother comes to bother you
Husband praises wife
The story of a bowl of noodles
Of course
Solution (non-violent communication)
1. Acknowledge your emotions
2. Use [objective observation] instead of [subjective evaluation]
3. Use [feeling + expectation] instead of [subjective evaluation]
Ending: [Ability First] VS [People First]
Being able to deal with all kinds of people is a kind of scarce ability in itself, which acts as a bridge, such as Taobao, intermediaries, matchmakers, and translators. And people who blindly talk about [personal connections] but don’t know this point of view ultimately have neither connections nor ability. Our goal should be: I don't need to deliberately make contacts, I am the contacts.
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